Toddlers and Tiara’s

What do you think of this? Little Eden’s Performance and Interview on The Talk. All I’m going to say right now is watch the reaction of the women of The Talk and watch the mother. The way she’s living through the child and crying at the end with her waving her hands to dry her tears make me want to stab knitting needles into my eyes!!

Here’s Sharon and Holly interviewing the mom.

Honestly, what do you think of this and how does it make you feel?

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28 Responses to Toddlers and Tiara’s

  1. Laura says:

    OH!!! I SAW this the other day!!! I was just… oh…. SCREAMING at the TV at that woman!! “It’s what she wants to do!!” B.S., what she wants to do. It’s the only thing she’s known since, what, 14 months? She can’t even form memories at 14 months. So it’s all she’s ever known. Of COURSE she’s not going to say, “no, Mommy, I don’t want to get up on stage and look like a hooker!”

    Oh. I need to go to bed… I’m on my way up… but AAK!!! Women like that make me CRAZY!!

    • Laura says:

      rrk. my stupid internet isn’t letting me load any videos tonight, but if I recall, Sharon and Holly were really nice to the mom about it, weren’t they? I mean, it was obvious that they weren’t real supportive of her, but they didn’t reach across the table and dig their nails into her throat. It’s probably good that Leah Reimi (is that how you spell it???) didn’t do the interview. I don’t think she could have contained herself.

    • Joy says:

      Holly and Sharon did take it pretty easy on this mother but it was all about her. About her being a drama teacher and her denying it was all about her. According to her, this is all Eden’s choice. Well, my kids would have been firemen when they were 5. Isn’t that what 5 is about????

      But after the clip when the mother and Eden were off stage, they all admitted they hated how this child was made to be on stage. It really is a good idea Leah wasn’t involved. She never holds back and she said backstage that she fell in love with this little girl and away from the mother she was much more “normal.”

  2. Joy says:

    This just makes me sad. It’s one thing to pick your activities and do what makes you happy but this child is 5. 5! What kind of lesson is it to teach children that looks and clothes and sex appeal is any way to judge others? If you’re cuter you win. How about if you’re smarter you win? 14 months old!!! 14 months old. How is that this child’s choice. I don’t think I’d have even had this reaction had this child been 10 and sang a song but this song, about how cute she is. Talk about making someone grow up to be a self centered jerk.

    All she really wanted to do was play with her dog. Even the damn dog had a costume on. That mother is nuts.

    I want to bring this girl to my house and put her in holey jeans and let her run to the big hill and play in the sand pile and let her be a little girl.

  3. SKL says:

    Unfortunately I still don’t have sound, so I will have to just put in my 2cents worth on the whole tot pageant thing. I think kids are beautiful without make-up and all that stuff. They glow, they sparkle, they chirp, they amaze, they make us chuckle with things WE COULD NOT HAVE THOUGHT OF. They play dress-up and it’s cute because it’s so silly. I feel it’s kinda sick to mess with that. I would rather see a happy kid with messy hair playing creatively than a made-up kid with perfect hair, checking to see if Mom approves of what she’s doing. I’m sorry. I think some kids probably do enjoy this some of the time, but they could have just as much fun playing without some spotlight on them.

    So since I think your vision has to be somewhat distorted before you can even tolerate watching this sort of stuff for more than a few minutes, obviously I’m not going to sympathize with a mom who takes this stuff really seriously.

    If success in this world really depended on looking cute, I could almost see it. But this is planet Earth. No amount of make-up and frills is going to solve real-life problems.

  4. Jenny says:

    Never seen the show (just the commercials) and I’m not gonna watch the clip because I hate it!!! I can’t stand to watch these kids get all made up and put on shows. They should just be for fun like at your house!!

  5. Sue says:

    I also will not watch the video because I don’t want to wreck my computer trying to beat this woman with a stick. But, whether it’s beauty pageants or sports or anything obsessed with winning, it really should be the kids’ choice. Sure, kids have to be introduced to things but they should get to decide if they’re going to continue or not.

  6. Ellen says:

    I have seen similar shows and it is to me exploiting children. This child will be another Britney Spears….These moms have missed something in their lives and compensate it through their children.

    • whatsaysyou says:

      I agree with you, Ellen. Such shows are not just exploitative but also they are making those children look like sex objects 😦 It is sad but true that girl (what a pity on her) will be another Britney Spears we will see in the next 12 or 15 years down the line unless if the mother got some sense knocked in her where she would nip this problem fast before it gets out of hand.

  7. shanef says:

    I think I just threw-up in my mouth!

  8. Laura says:

    What really gets me is this woman chirpily saying that they have already spent well over $100,000 on pageants, and haha, there’s no way they get that back! WHAT???

    Ok, I know that most sports can be expensive, too. I’m looking at the possibility of parenting a Tae Kwon Do black belt or a wrestler. If he gets serious about either of those sports, between equipment (which, actually, is quite reasonably priced) and tournament fees (that’s where the prices getcha), it will be a bit of an investment for him. But honestly! If ONE of his tournaments cost me $10,000 – which, I believe, is what that froofy Las Vegas Showgirl costume cost (maybe I’m thinking of another pageant kid) – I would have to be carted off to the hospital, after passing out from laughing hysterics.

    “Oh, but she gets confidence from being on stage!” Yeah, so is Josh… because he’s going to school, and they do plays and have him do readings in church. So did I, because I played an instrument, danced, and rode horses and had recitals and shows. And I walked away from those things with marketable skills, poise, balance, and the ability and confidence to deliver a right cross to a horse when it tries to bite me. What is this little girl going to take away? Confidence? Only if she’s wearing ten layers of makeup. Poise? Maybe – I’ll concede that, since she obviously has it. But what kind of skills does it take to walk across a stage in a showgirl costume?

    Maybe… MAYBE… if there was only one part of the show where they were all made up, and for the dance, sing, other talent part of the show, they were not allowed to be made up and all fake, I *might* go for it. Because yeah, most little girls really enjoy dress-up. But that’s what this is all about – the makeup and making those little girls look like American Girl Dolls. Except that some of the American Girl Dolls look more realistic.

    Josh just got up, so I suppose I’ll have to quit ranting.

    • SKL says:

      Yeah, the thing about being on stage being beneficial, but the problem is the “it’s all about me” mentality. My eldest thrives on the idea of going on stage and she loves it. It is one of the few areas of life where her ability and confidence are exceptional. But she’s up there with other kids and it’s about skills and team and entertaining. There are no judges, winners, or prizes. And the smiles are genuine. When she’s older, maybe she will decide she wants to go in for some competitions or solo performances, so she can feel the applause is all for her at times. But I am not going to push her in that direction. She dances because she loves dance. Period. (And that is a beautiful thing to see, genuine energy and happiness in a child.)

  9. mssc54 says:

    Mom couldn’t make it so….

  10. pammywammy says:

    I find this sad.Children need to be children.They grow up so fast as it is 😦

  11. pammywammy says:

    I just recieved beautiful family pictures with my 3 year old grandaughter.Shes a real doll.But she has a normal life.That makes this nana happy 🙂

  12. Joy says:

    You know the song she sang was really cute given it’s place. Had she, for example, been singing it to her parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins at a family gathering it would have been so adorable but for her to be made to sing a song that’s all about how cute she is is what really turned me off. It’s like they are making her sound so arrogant.

    • Laura says:

      Oh!! I’d forgotten about the song!! Yeah, that song was just creepy. I kept thinking through the entire thing… “man, this girl is SO gonna get beat up when she gets to middle school.”

      This kind of stuff is so dangerous. She’s going to grow up narcissistic… “look at me, look at me, look at me.” And when they stop looking at her, what will she have left?

      Why couldn’t the mom wait even five years? At ten, kids (at least kids these days) can be pretty savvy… they’ll know when they performed well, because they’ll know what a good performance feels like. They’ll know if they earned that trophy, rather than had a biased judge. Or maybe I’m just delusional. But I know, growing up, and starting around ten-ish, if I danced well, I knew it, and all I needed from my teacher was, “well done.” I knew if I played that piece well, or if I had a good ride. Because I could feel it. I knew what it felt like to screw it up, and to get it right.

      But at 5? All of that approval comes from outside, and EVERYBODY is telling her, regardless how crappy she might perform, that she’s perfect and awesome and sooo cute. There’s no balance. I think that’s the biggest problem I have with the whole damn thing. The lack of balance.

  13. Nikki says:

    I’m am all for children being proud of themselves, and doing what they want and love. I think this leans towards what the parents want. I have a niece who was our little pageant baby. She won awards, my sister took her to all kinds of competitions. But the day she said she didn’t want to, it all stopped. And my sister never EVER put make up on her…that alone drives me insane. Play make up at home is one thing but that’s so over the top it makes me sick. Parents should never push, only encourage and support.

    If Bailey one day said he no longer wanted to play baseball, of course I would be heart broken but I wouldn’t make him play. I saw it all summer long, kids sitting out there that clearly do not want to be there. These parents are inadvertently ruining their kids childhood. It will either make them hate whatever they are doing, or it they will be pushed to be the best and come out the other end with a head bigger than Texas! Both sad ending.

    Mssc nailed it on the head with this one…parents couldn’t make it big so they’ll do whatever they have to do to make their kids make it. And I have that mentality to a small degree. But I am more like, I didn’t graduate, he WILL! 🙂

  14. Phyllis says:

    I find child pageants extememly troubling. The sexy outfits, the makeup and the “shake your booty” moves are just soooo wrong on so many levels. Don’t these mothers realize that they’re setting up their little girls up to be exploited and possibly abused in the most extreme ways? Got a cute kid? Let them be in a few commercials. What makes people think pageants like this, and all that they entail, don’t feed the pedofiles in the world? This is really,really scary! In my own humble opinion it’s not like teaching a child to use her natural talents or inate ablities. Teach a child to write stories, do gynmastics, dancing, music, sports. Oh my, I find myself beginning to rant and rave about this stuff, so I’m going to stop now. This whole Toddlers and Tiaras thing can only end badly, it’s just wrong to set a child up to…. AGGGGG. I’ve really got to stop now….you wouldn’t know how disturbed i am right now!

  15. Phyllis says:

    Ok, I was wrong……. I’m not quite done yet! Do the parents NOT realize that this is a form of “child endangerment”????? They are attracting the most vile attention imaginable to these children. How long before these little cuties find themselves on the lap of some “nice” pageant judge, or producer, etc? The people involved in any part of these “pageants” really need to seriously consider loooong term mental health counseling!!!! Really…..I am just livid!!! (And this is me, getting down off my soapbox now).

    • whatsaysyou says:

      You got a point, Phyllis. We are not just talking about child endangerment but also these girls are about to head into a road of ruin full of low self-esteem, eating disorders, depression, negative body image and other possible terrible stuff all no thanks to their parents who sexualise them. It makes common sense at how early sexualisation of a child can be damaging to her even after she surpasses childhood and adolescence.

  16. whatsaysyou says:

    As a female, seeing those pictures left me feeling appalled and shocked. That little girl doesn’t look like a cute as a button doll at all. Not even a teeny bit. She is all dolled up to look like a mini stripper (it’s wrong in all levels) I am disgusted at how can her own mum allow her to be sexualised that way. What those mums are doing, it’s considered as abuse and bad parenting. If I got a sister or a cousin who does that to my niece (thank goodness that will never happen in the future), I would be hopping mad this instance and put a stop to that nonsense before more damage is done on the child.

    Whoever you are, fellow blogger(s), I applaud you for bringing up this matter and you are not alone in this as I have by chance wrote on my blog about my views about child beauty pageants.

  17. cormac828 says:

    I’ve only seen stills of the show from the internet but I find myself agreeing with everything that has been said here. Beauty pageants are boring enough at the best of times but this is a lamentable documentary of pushy, shallow, ego-tripping parents and their unwitting children. These idiotic adults are only concerned with their own status. They don’t care that they’re just screwing up their daughters by dressing them up as miniature versions of Katie Price and Christina Aguilera. Ten years from now those girls will be nothing but miserable, neurotic, maladjusted wretches. Teenage years are awkward enough so can you imagine what it will be like for these girls? They’ll be hopelessly f***ed up (pardon my French).

    • whatsaysyou says:

      Excellent point, cormac828. The idea of a little girl being made to be a
      mini-Katie Price or Christina Aguilera is unacceptable and gross. You have a point that those girls will turn out to be maladjusted and miserable when they are in their teens and beyond. I think those poor kids need to be taken to proper families rather than be allowed to stick with those so-called parents of theirs.

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