I was watching The Talk the other day and this subject was first up on the program. Is it always important to tell the truth no matter what? If you have the time and don’t watch the show or missed it, it’s just a little into 4 minutes long.
Sharon Osborne came right out and said immediately that no, if you don’t like what your friend is wearing, keep your mouth shut. She obviously likes it so it’s none of her (Sharon’s) business if she doesn’t and even though she asked you, she’d get huffy and defensive and maybe even mad. I guess that makes sense. That’s why there are so many different fashions. Julie Chen said she’d always want to know if someone didn’t like what she was wearing. Sara Gilbert also said she’s rather be told the truth but she wouldn’t be brutal about it. She’d say something like “yes, it’s okay but I really like you in x-y-z more.
Leah Remini and Holly Robinson Peete both pretty much said how I feel. That if we need to ask, we already know we either look fat or are wearing something that’s not that wonderful looking and really are only seeking either self-esteem credits or need the pat on the back and if we need to ask, we must need to be reassured and don’t really want our husband to tell us we look fat in what we’re wearing or it’s ugly.
Which brings me to wonder, if we know what we’re wearing isn’t great looking, why are we wearing it or why did we buy it?
I know me personally, I’d never tell anyone they looked fat in something or tell them something they were wearing was ugly (in my opinion). I just wouldn’t. I’d think they needed the confidence and if they bought it and had it on, they liked it and it’s not up to me to give my opinion if it’s not nice. Now if someone said, “do you like this one or this one,” I think that’s entirely different. Or if someone is trying to choose an outfit for something special and wants to know my opinion on what would be best for “that” occasion, I also find that totally different.
What about you? Do you always tell the truth no matter if you’re going to hurt someone’s feelings or do you tell that little white lie? Or how best do you handle this situation?