Do you think it’s okay to discipline other people’s children?
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If you leave me “in charge” my rules apply. If you don’t want my rules to apply to your child leave them somewhere else. Mind your manners kidoes. 😉
I’m kind of with mssc. If I’m in charge I feel kids should follow our rules. I’ve said many times “we don’t do that here” and things like that. I have never spanked or really punished someone else’s child though.
Yes. If I’m in charge, definitely. If I see another kid not playing fair, and his parent does nothing, I’ll bust him. Same with games/play getting out of hand.
It depends on what you mean by discipline. But if I need to correct another person’s kid, or redirect, whatever, in order to protect that kid, another kid, or my stuff, then yeah, I will do it.
Interesting that you brought this up today, because when I was trying to get my kids out of their daycare to go to a party (we were already running a bit late), some other kid was raising a stink with his dad. They were blocking the door. They were NOT going to get out of the way because the kid was enjoying the extra attention of another parent watching his antics. I was trying to hint (not subtly) that we needed to GO, but the kid was digging in all the more. Finally I firmly said, “we really have to go, we are going to be late for the party and someone’s waiting for us to give her a ride.” And I barreled toward the door. Dad finally got the kid out of the way, but then the kid started chasing my kids around my car. This kid is a behavior problem and he will readily hit the other kids, so my kids of course ran. Fell in the slush, etc. Meanwhile my voice became sharper and sharper as I ordered the girls to get into the car NOW. The dad came and picked up his kid, who promptly whacked him in the face with a truck. I’m sorry, but from what I’ve seen over the past 1.5 years, this dad has no balls. Not that his kids are “good” for anyone else, either, but he’s how much bigger than his 4.5-year-old and he can’t physically keep him in line on the way to his car? I hate to judge without knowing what all the kid’s issues are, but if I had to hold him down or carry him out in order to prevent something bad from happening, darn right I would do it.
I would never spank someone else’s child…but I would put them in timeout and say these are my rules, follow them!
Same as Jenny.
I do expect a certain behavior from kids. It varies with age. I have been a nanny for 5 years now, and I know kids can act appropriately when they need to. For an example; I have a 2 year old girl I am a nanny for. She is maybe one of my best kids I have had, except when her mom walks in. In my house, no thumb sucking, no whining for what you want. No screaming. No need to have blankie with at ALL times. We use our words. Mom walks in, thumb in mouth, whining starts, MUST NEED BLANKIE NOW, and she screams. I’ve talked her mom about it, and she knows she gives into her b/c it’s her baby. I hate that excuse, and it doesn’t fly in my house. As long as she’s good here, that’s her moms problem how she acts at home. I know she CAN act appropriately.
Long answer to this question, yes I have no problem discipling children when they need it and they are in my care. Never spank! If the parent is around and not making them mind, I tend to be more quiet. It’s the parents job.
Correcting I will do. I will leave the disciplining up to the parent.
That is an excellent way of putting it!
I agree. A really good way of saying it.
This is what the teachers do all over the world isnt it?