I’m sure most of you have heard the stories of people either making fun of or at least making smart alack comments on new Speaker of the House Rep. John Boehner’s crying. And he does it a lot. Very frequently. Here’s the Good Question about it. Does that make you uncomfortable? Does it seem weird to you when a man does it?
The first time I saw my dad cry was when one of our neighbors died of cancer. I think I was about 7 and it really scared me because it had never happened before. Since that first time I don’t think it was “as” hard for him and occasionally, he’d cry at things.
Here is an excerpt from the news story:
“Boys and girls cry the same amount up until age 12, when men have a huge decrease in crying,” he said. When puberty starts, different hormones lead to differently shaped tear ducts in men and women, at the same time, society tells boys to man up. That doesn’t mean that men are unable to cry, rather, they tend to suppress the emotional factors that fire the trigger.”
When my boys were young I did say “don’t cry, it’ll be okay” and hug them and say “sh, sh, sh, it’s okay” but I didn’t say it to them because they were boys. I didn’t want them to “man up” but I didn’t like to see them in pain and wanted to help. I never once told them it was unmanly to cry and in fact I admire it when a man can cry and show his feelings. I think it’s good and I think it’s emotionally healthy and I do think we all feel better after a good cry.
I cry pretty easy. I cry at sad times and happy times or sometimes from laughter. I can cry from a Hallmark commercial or those “reunion” type shows, when someone dies or recovers from an illness. When a baby is born or I get really mad and don’t know what else to do I’ll cry. I’ll admit I cry pretty easily.
What about you? What makes you cry? Does it make you uncomfortable when a man cries? Do you see it as wimpy or can you admire it?