What do you guys think?

Okay you guys. Here’s another one open for discussion. What do you think?

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7 Responses to What do you guys think?

  1. Sue says:

    I don’t think they should have sent letters home. Did they look at their own curriculum and lunch menu first and make changes? I bet not. Maybe the school should have added more physical fitness time, a nutrition class and better lunch choices for EVERYONE before deciding who was fat. It really is none of their business.

  2. Laura says:

    Schools are spending WAY too much time nosing into private business and not nearly enough time teaching what they should be. This is such a sensitive issue for me… I apologize if I start babbling.

    First off, Sue’s right. The school needs to first look at their own lunch menu! Check it out. THIS is what they’re serving for the month of January. Un-effing-believable. And they have the GALL to do BMI checks? When they push that kind of CRAP?

    Second, when I was in school, I was absolutely freaked out when they checked us for scoliosis. Like we’d never seen a doctor in our lives, and our parents didn’t have the ability to look at us and think, “gee, my kid’s leanin’ a bit to the left. Maybe I should check that!” (Here’s the kicker… my neighbor’s brother spent a year in a full-body cast due to scoliosis… that the school check missed!)

    Finally, to send something like this home in the folder of an adolescent girl, who is already sensitive about her weight? (and find me a single adolescent girl who ISN’T sensitive about her weight) These are the same people who tell us that we can’t say certain things to our kids because we might damage their self-esteem? That we have to talk to bullies rather than knocking them on their asses, because it will bruise their self-esteem, but the school can bully all they want. Un-freaking-believable.

    • SKL says:

      I used to have a bad back, and my mom (who suffered from untreated scoliosis) would send me to the nurse for the scoliosis check. The nurse would always say “she’s just skinny.” Well, come to find out, the nurse was wrong. But looking back, I wonder why we even thought she’d know what to look for. Makes me wonder how many other school screenings end up being a huge waste of time / money.

  3. SKL says:

    First, I agree that if the school is going to get involved in this at all, the best place to start would be their own actions, e.g., school lunch menu; health education; more time to move around.

    Second, if a child is obese, I’m sorry, but the parents don’t need a note telling them this. What a waste of tax dollars AND self-esteem. I don’t mind if they track progress confidentially and send general literature home to all parents about initiatives to improve overall health, but the school is not in the business of dispensing medical advice on an individual basis. If parents do want the schools to offer individual health-oriented services, they should set up a method for privately exchanging the information, e.g., have the parent contact the school for the information.

    Third, if it wasn’t obvious to the educators that this unsealed letter was going to hurt students’ feelings and leave them open to ridicule, then they need to be retrained. Especially at that age group. You couldn’t tell me anything at that age without my running to my room and bursting into tears – and I was skinny and smart.

    That all being said, I think parents need to discuss with their kids what they should say if someone gives them a hard time about their weight or any other attribute. That way the child is not caught unawares. In this case, the girl could have told her friends, “that’s what I’ve been going to the doctor for, and they are looking into causes since I have been on a careful diet.” If she puts on a brave face, her classmates will be much less likely to give her a hard time. Because let’s face it, nasty classmates don’t need an official trigger to put others down.

  4. Nikki says:

    I don’t agree with how they handled it. If a school is going to do this, they need to be sending it in the mail, addressed to the parents. No child should read that. We have a enough problems today with kids, mainly girls, and their self image. I highly doubt an 11 year old will read this and think, “oh I need to eat better and exercise.” I’m pretty sure they know they are over weight. They don’t need their school telling them that. That should be left up to a doctor to discuss with their parents.

    I remember having this done, and I remember how one of my friends felt. She was, I wouldn’t say fat by any means but bigger than the rest of us. She didn’t want to do it. IF they are going to insist on doing this body mass index test, they should do it in private. I still don’t think that’s their job though, that’s why we have doctors, and annual physicals!

  5. Phyllis says:

    I’d like to …… hell, I can’t even think of anything appropriate to fill that blank. I’m sorry, have any of these “intellectuals” (major sarcasm here) seen the statistics on anorexia and bulima in girls? This is yet another form of government (in this case schools) getting involved where they haven’t a right to be! Sure our school pulled the soda out of vending machines a while back so kids wouldn’t be corrupted with that, but do you know that instead of filling those machines with juice and water they are now filled with only water? What, juice isn’t healthy anymore?

    A child of any age DOES NOT deserve criticism from the school or anyone else. In this day and age, children see physicians with regularity. It is the dr (who knows the family history and the child’s history) who should broach the subject of weight with THE PARENTS (not the child) and help the family come up with a plan that is suitable.
    That would he helpful when there are glandular issues, and any other type of thing.

    I grew up in a family with 3 children. We all ate the same food, same snacks, and drinks. We all spent most of our time outside playing, so we got an equal amount of exercise. One of us was very, very slim, one was a medium build, and the third was a bit heavier than the “norm”. There weren’t many sweets, but rather, fruit was considered a treat and sometimes pudding for dessert. It wasn’t a case of overeating, or eating the wrong foods, it was and continues to be a metabolism issue. It’s just wrong for this school, or any other, to make judgement calls on anything!! They should be told in no uncertain terms to back off and butt out!

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