The other day Sue wrote this post about our recent Christmas gifts and if we liked them all and are still using them or are they now sitting all alone is some far corner. Jenny had commented about a toy Hunter got that farted and he loved it at first but now, not so much. I’d said I’m never have let that toy in my house because I hated farting. Jason asked how could that have worked when I raised two boys.
WELL?!?!?…….I hate farts. Not just the smell but also the sound. I also hate burping. I pretty much feel both of these things, unless really accidental, should be at least done in another room. They’re both pretty gross things. We go to the bathroom in private so why would we subject other people to that same smell? I know people who think the louder, the stinker, the better! To me, that’s just piggish and gross.
I didn’t really even have to tell my boys this. They just knew growing up that this was “one of those things mom hates” so we’d best just not do it. Now I’m not talking about a random burp or fart but I can remember my brother having faring and burping contests with his friend Brian. To this day I’ve never forgotten it and ISH!!! How gross is that??
What personally, as a parent, really bothered you and you just plain out didn’t/don’t allow? I was a pretty lenient parent when it came to most things. I expected respect though I didn’t always get it. I’m not going to paint a pretty picture and we did have our fair share of problems. Kindness. I also didn’t tolerate late. For every minute my boys where late they were grounded an hour. I always told them if they could be 10 minutes late than they could be 10 minutes early. They also couldn’t EVER ask me if “so and so” could come over and play or do anything with us if that person was present. If they wanted someone over, they had so ask me in private. I NEVER budged on these few things.
I played with my kids and we pretty much had a good time but for certain things, I was always consistent. I feel being late is rude and if you’re late, you make other people wait and you’re really not that important to be allowed to do that. I also worried out of my mind. The asking the friends to do things. Well, I worked with them and their friends at school everyday so they would have made it a habit and they put me in a bad light if I have to say no in front of them. So they knew the rule and if they asked in front of the friend, it was an automatic no and I’d tell the person they were with that they’re supposed to ask me things like that in private.
But if they broke a window with a baseball or flooded the bathtub with bubbles and water, I never got mad at those things. Accidents to me were just that but consideration and thoughtfulness was what I tried hard to enforce.
I hope I don’t sound too hard. You only need to say “Ike could have come over after school had you asked me this morning” once in front of them. If you waffle and say yes “sometimes”, that’s the problem because kids think “today may be the day she’ll say yes.”
What weren’t you allowed to do as a child and what will you not budge on with your kids?
Remember, you have to say no or enforce your rules every single time or this doesn’t work?