What do you think?

What do you think of this? Where do you think you’d rank?

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10 Responses to What do you think?

  1. SKL says:

    Oh, hell no! Let’s see, why don’t I like this?

    1) Teaching kids responsibility?

    2) I finished school a long time ago.

    3) How do YOU propose to evaluate what goes on in MY house as far as eating and sleeping?

    4) Talk about subjective – “how the parents responded to communication” – might as well say “don’t you dare disagree with the teacher on anything.”

    5) Way to humiliate children by telling them their parents suck. Way to make kids carry their parents’ baggage into the new generation.

    6) Does each parent get to issue a report card on the teacher?

    7) How dare you assume you care more about my kid than I do, or better know what’s good for her?

    8) Maybe your homework is inappropriate if my kid isn’t doing it!

    9) If there is a case of actual neglect, call the child protective service. The rest of us parents might be doing the best we can – which varies from child to child.

    How would I be graded? Well, if I cared, I could probably get an “A.” But in fact, I’d probably get an “F” because I expect my kids to be responsible and accountable for their own schoolwork, I won’t facilitate inappropriate homework, my idea of what’s best for my kids may not fit the teacher’s rule of thumb, and I will communicate with the teachers based on my honest opinion.

  2. Laura says:

    I’m mixed on this one. On one hand, I’m a very involved parent, and I know that most of the parents in our little school are, as well. (keeping in mind that Josh goes to a private school) Being the involved parent that I am, I monitor Josh when it’s time for him to do his assigned homework, twice a week. When I saw that he needed extra work in math, I instituted flash-card practice after school almost every day. When I see that he’s having a problem elsewhere, I find extra stuff for him to do, and I bring his teacher into the loop on it. There have been times when I’ve written a note to his teacher (I have yet to use it… just writing it is motivation enough) saying that Josh refused to do his homework, and understands that he will receive a Zero for the assignment, and no chance to make it up.

    Having said that, I know that there are plenty of parents out there who figure that it is completely the responsibility of the teachers to teach their kids *everything* including table manners and anger management. Now, I don’t have a problem with a teacher reminding him of that stuff, but that is ultimately my responsibility as a parent. And there are plenty of parents out there who do none of that.

    Looking over the list of questions – I agree, mostly, with SKL. If my kid went to a public school, I don’t want the government poking their nose into my house, telling me what I have to prepare for meals or what time bedtime should be. Not as a matter of requirement. If, however, my son’s teacher contacted me, and said, “Josh is falling asleep in class/has gotten super hyper during mornings lately… is he getting enough sleep/have his eating patterns changed?” I wouldn’t have a problem.

    How would it reflect on the report card if I sent that threatened note to school? (that he refused to do his homework) I am sending it, because I am teaching him to accept the consequences of his actions. Would the teacher/system see it the same way? Or do they now consider it my responsibility to make sure that work is done regardless the method?

    Finally, I would like to see the studies that show that ALL of the teachers are doing ABSOLUTELY everything possible. That teachers who don’t do their jobs properly are promptly disciplined and fired where appropriate. That the school system has found a way to have their “teacher planning time/inservice hours” sometime OTHER than when my child should be in class – the number of days off/half days that kids get nowadays is staggering (and this is coming from a Catholic School parent, where we used to have a day off for every Saint known to man). That the school system has gone back to teaching solid basics – phonics, proper mathematics and science methods, kids reading at or above grade level, age-appropriate health lessons – and not teaching more “social” lessons than solid educational concepts.

    Once it is proven that the reason children are not doing well in school is, in fact, due in large part to the parents, THEN maybe I’ll agree to it. But right now, there are too many things wrong with the school system.

    I’m not saying that parents are not partly at fault. I understand that they are a massive part of the equation. But the Report Card idea has to go both ways. There are problems at all levels, and it seems like many of those problems are being overlooked, because it’s easiest to blame the parents.

  3. SKL says:

    I have somewhat rebellious attitudes about homework. I think that if the teacher is going to assign it, the teacher is responsible to ensure it is something the KIDS can actually do. And at the same time, that it is worthwhile. Not just busy-work so that they can check a box. Know why? Because my limited time with my kids is precious. And we do a lot of things that don’t accommodate homework. Like physical activities, going to museums and cultural events, etc. If my kids are assigned homework that does not facilitate THEIR independent learning, then why should I give up stuff that I consider better for them? Sure, they can do the homework during after-school care if the teacher gives a reasonable, age-appropriate assignment. But if they don’t, then it’s between the child and the teacher. The teacher is free to impose penalties on the CHILD to encourage her responsibility.

    You know I’m a very involved parent. It is generally my goal to make sure my kids are ahead of the curriculum where possible. There are many ways to do this that have nothing to do with homework. Where my kids need extra help, I will identify non-school-oriented activities to shore up their weaknesses. A well-rounded schedule of activities supports academic learning better than drilling what was done in school that day. And of course I care that my kids eat and sleep well – but so what if we come home late after a worthwhile outing? And am I to be penalized because my kid is a picky eater, or because I sometimes have to use “tough love” to motivate them to be ready on time?

    I totally agree that it’s the parents’ job to teach values, morals, manners, etc. But on the other hand, if the teachers are going to penalize parents for not hovering over homework all evening, does that not cut into the opportunity to teach things in the parents’ realm?

    I know this view is getting less and less popular – but it’s the way I was raised, and I certainly didn’t grow up stupid or lazy.

  4. Nikki says:

    I don’t have a problem with teachers being concerned about these things, in fact they should be. I think direct communication would be more affective than a report card. That seems silly to me.

    Homework. I actually have a problem with Bailey not having enough right now. ONLY because next year, he’ll be in middle school and that is a huge change. One of the biggest changes is there is a lot more homework. I want him to be prepared for that. I can’t change this, but I can prepare him. His teacher does give them homework, but Bailey uses his free time at school to do it. He won’t have that opportunity after this year. What I did was go online and print worksheets out of him, he does those every day after school.

    I am in constant contact with my sons teacher through email, and phone if need be. He is always willing to meet face to face if that is necessary also. That’s the way it should be. I do not need a report card to tell me what I need to do, and if parents are falling short of their responsibilities at home then it should be discussed in a proper way. That is not a proper way in my opinion.

    Teachers, and parents have responsibilities to their students/kids and to each other.

  5. Laura says:

    regarding the homework thing… I think there’s a swing back the other way. I’ve been in contact with friends who had kids right out of college, so their kids are now heading off to college in their own right. For a while there, those kids were bringing home an hour-plus of homework for each class, each day. It was pure insanity for first, second, third graders to have that kind of homework!! And it only increased as they got older. I had mom friends extremely concerned over the musculature health of their children – those kids were having problems with shoulders, backs, etc., because of the heavy books they were required to carry each day.

    Now, Josh is in first grade, and I think his homework is appropriate for his situation. On Mondays, he does a practice math test (the real one is given each Tuesday), and a set of spelling words that come home on Fridays, which we practice over the weekend, for the test on Monday. Every Wednesday, he is expected to do math flashcards, but I’ve instituted that as an every-day activity. Other than that, he only brings home work if it hasn’t been completed in class.

    Maybe it’s our school… our teachers seem to have a saner approach to homework than others have.

    • Nikki says:

      I am afraid of what middle school will bring. We have 2, 6th graders in our baseball program and they are always bringing homework to do in between batting sessions. I asked one mom about it, and she said they have an insane amount of homework. But then again, they may not be using their own time wisely. Bailey uses his daily free time and bus time to get his done. I just hope that he does okay next year, I am not looking forward to it for many reasons. 😦

  6. Joy says:

    I will make my answer short and sweet. NO I DON’T THINK I SHOULD GET A REPORT CARD. I’m done with school. My kids homework is THEIR homework and NOT mine. Yes, I helped but I never did it for them. The only thing I did was typed out reports for them (this was before computers did them) and I counted the time it took me to do it as time they owed me to do something for me like rubbing my feet or working in my flowers.

    I think it’s up to all parents to make sure their kids eat and are bathed and have a clean bed to crawl into at night but we’ll never be able to “shame” parents who plain and simply don’t care. There are always going to be parents like us and who care and then there will always be those parents who don’t. There will always be kids sent to school with no lunch or no mittens and who are dirty. Nothing will ever change that.

    Report cards are just one more way for people to be too involved in my life. Thanks but no thanks.

    • Laura says:

      Mittens are on the report cards too??? Dang, I’d have gotten at least two F’s this winter, because Josh lost his and didn’t bother to tell me until we were ready to leave for the bus. So guess who went to school with no mittens? He knows where they are now, though.

    • Joy says:

      LOL!!! You know what I mean!!

  7. Phyllis says:

    Maybe it’s just me, but I seriously think a state rep should be worried about matters of import, you know, like balancing the state budget, listening to and acting on the opinions of their constituency. Giving parents report cards for 12 yrs????? RIDICULOUS!

    Most parents are concerned with their child’s education and the homework it entails. Most of us will see to it that the work is done, and if there’s a problem in any area we will actually work with the kid on that subject. As for meals? Whose business is it if once in a while we just have pizza without serving a salad, etc., to make sure the meal is balanced. Are they going to tell us that Kool-aid hasn’t any nutritionaly value and therefore isn’t allowed in the diet any longer?

    How much study/class time will be devoted to asking each child what they ate for dinner, when they went to bed and how much time they watch t.v. or playing games, how long they spent on homework, and what they had for breakfast in the morning? Just exactly how does the school/government plan to monitor these activities? What next? Are they going to want to install cameras in every home to “oversee” our home lives?

    Don’t get me wrong, when my daughter was growing up, she came home, went out to play while I made dinner which we then ate, did her homework by herself which I then corrected. If an answer was wrong, I had her re-do the problem/question and if she didn’t understand it, I helped her grasp the information. I did the same with both my granddaughters since I was usually with them for several hours til their mom got home from work. After homework we played whatever game they were interested in, did baths and went to bed. Course bedtime in our homes is around 10 pm for kids, so we had time to spend time as a family. I might’ve been given a B if the grading system was in place or who knows, maybe a C because a “good parent” sees to it that children go to bed earlier.

    Bottom line is……. leave the families to raise their children. If and when there is a problem contact that childs family and work with them on the issues. Don’t assume that everything is the fault of the parents. As a teacher, teach the subjects you’re responsible for in a manner that will hold the pupils attention and interest and where possible make the learning experience fun! Oh, and here’s a rather novel idea….. if you see that a kid needs some extra help, maybe, just maybe, you could put yourself out enough to give said child a little extra help with it. Keep homework to a reasonable amount rather than loading it on and then complaining that the families aren’t involved with each other when the reason there’s not enough interaction within families is the hours and hours being spent on homework each night. Uggggggghhhhh!

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