Just recently, I read a post at another blog that I visit, about Tori Spelling and her pregnancy. Specifically, the author was thrilled for Tori and husband, Dean, on the impending arrival of baby #3. Responses ranged from “So happy for her” to “Congrats on the baby!”, and continued in that vein.
But a while ago, this same blog trashed LeAnn Rimes, who was Tweeting that she was excited about her coming marriage to Eddie Cibrian – the man that she left her first husband for. And LeAnn was absolutely shredded in the comments. Called all kinds of nasty names, beginning with “cheater” and “husband stealer,” and getting worse from there. Her personal life, appearance and career were insulted. Some of the commenters expressed wishes for her to “just go away already,” and to “stop being a media whore.”
This same bunch of commenters can’t get enough of Angelina Jolie, but trashes Jennifer Aniston for “stealing” men from other women.
Now, I don’t profess to know a single detail about these ladies’ personal lives, other than what I read on the covers of the tabloids at the checkout, because who doesn’t read those? But I have to wonder, what scale are we using to tabulate fidelity? Who gets a pass, and who gets trashed?
The Tori/LeAnn stories are amazingly similar… Tori and Dean were both married when they started their affair. They left their spouses and married each other. LeAnn and Eddie did much the same, although they have not yet married. Tori uses Twitter to make announcements about her relationship, and the world goes gooshy; LeAnn Tweets about her relationship, and she is trashed.
Angelina, it is said, is responsible for breaking up more than one relationship before the Big One – Jennifer Aniston and Brad Pitt. And now that it’s “Brangelina” and not “Bennifer” (or is that Affleck/Garner? I can never remember), Angelina can do no wrong, and Jennifer can do nothing right.
Is a relationship deemed “proper” if the couple marries and produces children? If so, then once LeAnn and Eddie marry, they should become the Darlings of the Media. But if you follow that logic, Angelina and Brad should still hold the contempt of fans, because they’re not married.
I don’t know the answer, and I guess I’ll continue to be amazed at the schizophrenia of “fans”.