What brought this up was I was chatting this morning with a very “oldie but goodie friend” who I don’t talk to in person all that often but it’s one of “those” that when you talk, it’s like you just talked yesterday. Her daughter is graduating in June and she was trying to figure out how this girl could earn some extra money this summer for her “going away to college” account. In other words, she’s going away in the fall and has never EVER had a job. So my friend said to me that she was going to see if she could do “a bit of babysitting” in the neighborhood.
What in the world am I missing here? Is this just me or do you find everything wrong about this? First of all, babysitting at 18? Going far, far away from home without one lick of responsibility? She can’t cook. She’s never paid a bill and she’s given every little thing her heart desires. She went to two proms so she had two dresses at $300 apiece. She has her own car and cell phone and has since 16. And now she wants, or expects, her to go away all on her own in a few short months with no knowledge of even knowing how to put a meal on the table all the while she’s 700 miles away from anyone she knows??????
I know I wasn’t the perfect parent and if I could have a do-over on a few things, I’d jump at the chance but I never once let my boys think I or the world owed them anything. They had chores. They got an allowance and they had to pay for the “extra’s” that they wanted. They did what I did. They babysat and cut grass. They both had jobs at 15 and they both loved working. The only thing I made them pay for themselves was car insurance and the car. I paid for clothes, room and board and everything they needed in life but they didn’t “need” a car. And “if” cell phones were around then, I probably wouldn’t have paid for one of those either. I just think kids need to know that certain things are a privilege and therefore you have to earn them.
I have a few other family members who are doing this too and I just don’t get it. Don’t you want your kids prepared for life when they walk out that door? If you hand them everything and don’t make them earn anything, how will they survive on their own? I guess I was a mean ol’ mom. How can you just throw your kid into the big bad world without an ounce of preparation?
What did you have to earn when you were growing up? What did you do with your kids or do you plan to do? At what age do you think a child should be out earning a few bucks for the “extra’s” in their lives? What do you think kids should pay for while living under your roof?