This was the Good Question last night on the news. What do you think? Both of our boys were very different. Jason was a lot quieter and a went pretty much under the radar for most of his youth. He wasn’t one to get into fights or really any kind of trouble. He’s more than made up for it in his adult life but as a young kid, he was quieter. When he was in Kindergarten some kid stole a Peanuts hockey pin he had on his coat on the bus and wouldn’t give it back so Paul told him to grab the kid by the lapels and demand it back. So that’s what he did. He got his pin back and there was never any more trouble with that kid. But there wasn’t really any violence nor was there a fight. He just stood up for himself and got the pin back.
Toby on the other hand stuck up for himself. We never had to tell him to defend himself. When he first started school he got on the bus one day and a 6th grader tripped him and he came up swinging and smacked the kid right in the face. That kid was so embarrassed that he and his friends took him under their wing and he was pretty much taken care of and was never picked on again.
I was talking to Paul and Toby about this last night and we differed somewhat. Do you feel “teasing” and bullying are the same thing? Toby kind of does. I was telling him I got teased all the time in school. For being flat chested. I was called Flatsy like the dolls. I used to have one boy in particular sing me this every time I saw him in the hall. He also called me “Not it” which he’d always say “no tit” right after the “notit” like a little song. I hated him but he never hurt me physically. Is it the same thing? Toby said it is because after all this time, I still remember those hall chants.
Don’t you feel no matter what, someone is going to find something to tease us about?Whether we have long hair or red hair, freckles, funny ears or buck teeth. Skinny or fat. Tall or short. Someone is always going to tease you. My mom used to tell me that if someone didn’t like you, they wouldn’t tease you because they wouldn’t bother to take the time.
What do you all think? What have you told your kids about defending themselves? Do you think teasing and bullying are the same?