We probably all remember our first crushes, our first kisses. Mine was in the 6th grade. I remember it being so awkward, that I didn’t care if I ever did it again. Actually, I don’t think I did do that again until I was a freshman in high school. I also was very awkwardly skinny, had braces and not confident at all, so the boys certainly weren’t flocking to me!
My son, on the other hand is pretty popular with everyone, and the girls have already taken a liking to him. It used to be “you’re my boyfriend, you’re my girlfriend and we might wave to each other on the play ground” type thing. Ah, not so much anymore. Now, they’re all very close to being 11, if not already. It went from very innocent and cute, to almost inappropriate. I don’t want to say too much, because I don’t want to invade my own sons privacy. He had this “girlfriend” and it all seemed fine and dandy until he didn’t text her back right away one day. She kinda freaked out on him. She blows up his phone, to the point where he got it taken away. I read all of his text messages, and I didn’t like a lot of the things she was saying. I told him that in my opinion he didn’t need to be “going out” with this girl anymore. He took my advice, and broke up with her. I know not all girls at this age are like this, but it did get Joy and I thinking about why some kids/adults are like this. Some are very carefree, and don’t care if you go days without speaking. And some, well they freak out if you go 5 minutes without texting back. Yeah, not okay! Is it a learned behavior, is it just a part of their personality? I know some adults that can’t even go a few hours without some kind of communication from their boyfriend, husband, etc.
The obsessiveness, the clinging. Where does it all begin? From seeing it, experiences, or is just who you are? Do you think technology these days, with all the texting and social networks, that it’s made this worse, and at an earlier age?
Now, I know my son is almost 11 and he will have more girlfriends, and it will be serious some day. That day can wait! But I’m not blind to the real world, I can’t lock him up and throw away the key, as much as I selfishly would love to do that. He’s making good decisions thus far, and I can only hope that continues.
BTW, the picture is of Bailey and his preschool crush…when it was just cute!