Big Kiss

This was a discussion on The Talk one day and I wondered what you all thought about it. The discussion I’m talking about is right at the beginning. Do you kiss your kids on the mouth?

I love the way Jessica Alba is smooching her little girl in the photo. Now if that’s not a mother’s kiss I don’t know what is.

I thought the conversation was going fine until Sara Gilbert said she found when adult daughters kissed their dad on the mouth, she found something weird about that.

I kissed my kids right smack dab on the mouth. I kissed them all over their face. I kissed their butt and sucked their toes while playing during a bath. I find nothing wrong with it. I’ve also kissed my dad and son’s on the mouth and don’t find anything wrong with that either. The only person who really doesn’t like me to kiss me on the mouth is Trinity. She never did like it but Bailey and Christopher kiss me there. How can anyone think kissing a loved on the mouth is wrong or weird?

I guess I almost feel that people who find this as a sexual thing or wrong, maybe have something wrong with them emotionally or maybe they’ve been kissed when they didn’t want to be. Does a kiss from me and my dad evoke a bad picture? How wrong does that sound? I find it insulting.

Which side of this fence are you on? Do you kiss your kids on the mouth? Do you kiss members of your family of the opposite sex on the mouth? Do you think it’s sexual or weird? I’m not sure how seeing a dad kiss his daughter or a mom kissing her son as sexual.

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11 Responses to Big Kiss

  1. Jenny says:

    I kiss Hunter on the mouth. I believe he kisses everyone on the mouth who will let him. I see NO problem what so ever with it! Its purely innocent and sweet.

  2. mssc54 says:

    I kiss four out of five of our children on the cheek. Our nine year old daughter kisses us on the lips. Maybe it was something her birth mother started.

  3. Sue says:

    I kiss on the cheeks but see nothing wrong with children kissing their parents on the mouth. Jenny’s right, it’s innocent.

  4. Laura says:

    I kiss Josh on the lips, I kiss him on the nose, the head, wherever.

    I used to kiss my mom on the mouth when I was little, but as I grew up, I got more and more uncomfortable with it. I never thought it was sexual, it just felt weird. I don’t know why. I don’t know how it will end up with Josh… I suppose I’ll just ride it out and see.

    I generally don’t see anything wrong with it – if it’s a family thing, that’s what your family does. I do get twitchy, though, when people ‘force’ hugs and kisses on me. It’s a personal space thing.

  5. SKL says:

    I’m not a very touchy-feely person. But when I was a kid, I got lots of kisses on the mouth. Eventually I didn’t want it but never because it was anything “sexual.” I just kind of wanted my own separateness or something as I grew.

    With my kids, I kind of had to win them over due to the adoption situation. I didn’t sense that they’d want me planting my lips on theirs right at the beginning. Now I have no problem doing that, but they don’t usually want it that way and I respect that. Mostly when we are very affectionate and silly, like at tuck-in time, a kiss anywhere is welcome. Other times, they usually give me their cheek.

    No, I don’t see a kiss on the lips from a dad to a young child as weird. I think anyone who sees it as perverted (when the child is OK with it) is a pervert.

  6. Ellen says:

    When my kids were little, I kissed them now and then on the mouth. But later on the cheeks. I never kiss anybody else than my husband on the mouth. Some brothers in laws of my side wants to give me a hug and kiss on the mouth, but I manage to turn my face to the side. I really do not like them to do that. It is always somewhat awkward. But I do not see from kissing your own children on the mouth, as something sexual. I actually never thought of that that way.

  7. Laura says:

    I think the ‘parents kissing adult kids on the mouth = sexual’ thing really depends on the individual kiss. I really don’t see how a quick peck could be interpreted any way other than just that – a quick peck. A short display of affection between parent and child. But then you have people like Angelina Jolie. Remember when she was between men, many years ago (before Brad)? She brought her brother to some awards show, and they were almost making out. That was beyond creepy, and it’s situations like that where it introduces an uncomfortable sexual aspect.

  8. Nikki says:

    Are you kidding me?! I will kiss Bailey right on those lips until the day I die! And he’s okay with that. I’ve asked him, when will he stop giving me kisses like that, and his response is, never! That’s my son, I gave birth to him. I can’t see how anyone would ever think something sexual came from that. He still kisses his dad. He will always give his momma and his grandma kisses, probably forever.

    Every day when my daycare girl gets picked up, her mom tells her to give me a kiss and she lays one right on me. Right on the lips! They are children, and that’s just love.

    If some kids aren’t comfortable with it, of course you have to respect that.

  9. Phyllis says:

    I really don’t see any problem with parents kissing our kids or grandkids wherever, or whenever! Lots of times when they hit their teens they’ll prefer a hug over kisses and that’s fine too! Kids NEED physical contact with their parents and there’s nothing wrong or sexual about it. For other relatives however a cheek kiss or hug is appropriate in my own opinion, but that’s just me. It doesn’t bother me in anyway to affection showed among family.

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