Were there any surprises for you?

What is the most surprising thing you didn’t find out about your spouse or roommate until after you were married or living together? Was it about finances? Exes? Sexual Preferences? or something little, like his or her likes or dislikes?

Inspired by Gayle King

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5 Responses to Were there any surprises for you?

  1. Laura says:

    There were a lot of little things. The biggest, I think, was the fact that, before we married, he was capable of doing laundry, cleaning up, vacuuming, cleaning the kitchen, all those “domestic” things, and somehow, the vows eradicated most of those skills. it’s bizarre.

  2. What a great question! The one roommate I had who really surprised me ended up being an addict…

  3. Phyllis says:

    Much to my chagrin, I found after the marriage that my guy was nothing more than a liar and a cheat! With mostly lazy thrown in for good measure. The only thing he wasn’t at the time was a thief, which changed during the divorce! One of those time I really, REALLY should’ve listened to the feedback of my family! 😦 Ah, well, I’ve let go of all that crud, and we are able to sociable at family functions.

  4. Joy says:

    I didn’t really have a whole lot of surprises either but there were things I didn’t really think a lot about. Paul was older and knew what he wanted in life and I did know what he expected but somewhere along that way, I feel now, I gave up most of my “young” hears adapting to his, older years. It wasn’t discussed. It just happened over time. I’m not saying that’s a bad thing either. It’s just the way it was. The other thing that did really bother me at first was his inability to compromise or change a habit just because “I’ve always done it this way and I’m not changing it.” That’s not really a nice thing to do. I didn’t know he was so adamant about some things.

    But then there were also really good things I saw before marrying him. Like what a good father he was and what a good son. He was/is very ambitious and has the kindest heart. There are good and bad but there has to be mostly good or you wouldn’t marry. Right?

  5. Nikki says:

    I pretty much knew what I was getting myself into when I married him. LOL I know most only saw the bad-but I saw the good in him, the potential he had.

    I guess he surprises me more today, than he did before we were married, or even in the last 13 years. He is kinder, and gentler and compromises! He used to have such a tough-guy (asshole) way about him. He has softened a lot, and I believe that is due to age, and these kids he works with almost on a daily bases.

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