Why do women still do most chores? This was the Good Question the other night and I’ve been thinking about it ever since.
Paul and I used to pretty much divvy up our chores. I also know that we lived in a different time when our boys were young and a lot of women still stayed home with their kids and I do think if someone is at home and the other is out earning a living, shouldn’t the one at home do what needs to be done at that said home?
I know a lot of people who say things like “I took the garbage out last time and this time it’s your turn” and they fight over stuff like this. “I changed the last poopey diaper so this ones yours” while they proceed to hand their child to someone who’s in another room doing something else. I can’t fathom stuff like this. If the garbage is full, why wouldn’t you just take it out? Why would you let it sit there out of principle and spite? I guess maybe I find that just childish but if Paul’s working all day and the garbage is full, I take it out. If one of us is going out, that person will just grab the bag and take it out even if it’s not “our turn.”
Now, some “chores” are mine and some are his. I don’t do anything with the vehicles other than fill with gas and wash. He used to do most of the outside stuff but I’ve grown into doing some of that. I do the laundry, most of the cleaning and the small stuff. I don’t think Paul has ever emptied the dishwasher. If he needs something from it and it’s been run, he’ll just take what he wants out. That bugs me depending on what’s going on but we both have our own stuff and it’s worked out pretty well. I do most of the cooking but Paul is a good cook and will cook if I ask or he feels like something. He’s got some pretty good specialties like chow mein and poached eggs. I like doing the grilling because he tends to daydream and I can’t stand my steak overdone.
So, who does most of your chores? Do you just do what needs to be done or will you make your spouse or roommate do it if it’s “their turn?” How did you divvy up your stuff? Do you both work full time and if not, should the person at home do more?