“Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.” -Buddha
There are many kinds of anger. Here are 5 kinds of anger.Do you get angry often? How do you handle your anger?
I have a variety of angry reactions depending on how I feel in general, and what I’m angry about. I tend to get quiet, avoid people, be passive-aggressive, and eventually turn the anger on myself. Sometimes I need to rant to one or more people before I can shrug it off and move on to the next thing.
The older I get the more my emotions and moods change. I used to hold on to anger. I’d get sulky and pouty and get really quiet. If I was overly quiet, people knew something was wrong or I was upset or mad about something.
But as I’ve gotten older I’m a little quicker to anger but it’s good because I get it out and it’s over. In the past I didn’t know how to express it. Now even if I just talk to myself, I get it out.
The only time now that I hold on to it is emotionally. If someone really hurts me that way, I hold on to that and I don’t know how to change it. I don’t know how to express that I’m hurt so I just get quiet and go into myself. Little things are easy to get over but the heart hurting takes longer.
I tend to have a short fuse. I can get irritated or mad pretty easily, but I get over it just as easily. I am very quick to apologize, but I very seldom forget. I also don’t think apologizing is always admitting that I’m wrong. I just don’t like to be in arguments/confrontations. If I’m hurt, and that goes unsettled for a period of time, it almost always turns into depression for me. I’m an emotional person, so things that hurt me may not bother someone else. I do get better at dealing with this, the older I get.
I don’t get angry alot, but when I do I will walk away and cool off. I really try not to speak in anger because verbal scars may never heal completely. I’m a firm believer in let cooler heads prevail so I’ll go back and discuss an issue a short time later.
When someone ticks me off at work I use the same philosophy, but I will discuss it with my family to help let it go. I don’t believe in involving others in the work place when there’s a disagreement with a co-worker because, in my opinion, that’s gossiping and shouldn’t be done. Why bother getting others involved when it’s none of their business to begin with?
Naturally, this has come to me later in life rather than when I was younger.
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