What do you think? Can men and women be friends or does sex always get in the way?
Do you have a friend of the opposite sex that you do things with, without your spouse along? Does your spouse?
Would it bother you if your spouse went somewhere with a person of the opposite sex without you?
This will be a good one. I predict answers along gender lines.
So was my answer perdictable?
I’m sure it’s possible, but I’m a little jaded since I’ve had guys tell me they were doing XYZ with a female “friend” and then later it came out that it was a lot more than that.
I have some male friends, but not really close like my best female friends.
I don’t tend to be the jealous type (I don’t think) but I’d expect to be invited along if my spouse was doing something with a female friend.
I’ve had both male and female friends. I’ve never had a “best” male friend, unless you count Steve – and there have been times when our relationship has been more of a “friendship” than a “marriage”. I guess when you’re with someone this long, it goes through those kinds of phases.
I’ve also been friends with men who I wanted more from (before marriage), and men who have wanted more from me. I think it really depends upon the individuals involved.
I also know that Steve has had some close female friends over the years, and for the most part, I haven’t had a problem with it. There were one or two that I’ve had to run off, though, because they were overstepping their bounds, if you catch my drift. I can be very territorial when I need to be.
Currently, I have several male friends, and all of them are married – it’s kind of hard not to have them. They’re Scout Leaders with me.
That made smile thinking about Laura running off females. I bet she carries a big stick. Some days you need that some women can be pretty bold. I try to keep that mind and to be repectful of others not to threaten them or make them feel uncomfortable. I think when your a couple hanging out with another couple or couples that you trust can be a nice thing. But if Navar was hanging out with a “special woman friend” yeah I don’t think that would go over very well with me. I usually say” How do you think that would fly?” And he say not very good. We communicate pretty well with each other when were not comfortable I think that helps.
Think more along the lines of a snarling she-wolf, protecting her pack. I don’t have trouble showing the fangs. Sticks just get in the way!!
“snarling she-wolf, protecting her pack” well said!
Well. I’m not really a jealous person either but I think it depends on “what kind” of friend it is. If it’s a work friend then what can you do? When you work with someone you do share certain things. You’re together all day. I’ve had male work friends. But I never went out with them while Paul sat at home. That would never have flown. But the same holds true if he were to go out with a woman while I stayed home? No, I’d never go for that.
With that being said, I wouldn’t really appreciate being left at home while he went out on the town with anyone. We are a couple and we are also both from the era that you don’t really go out without each other. Paul goes out to dinner for business about twice a year but he’s home by 8. That’s fine with me but I’m not sure I’d be cool with him leaving me home while he went out with anyone till all hours.
I really do think it depends once again, on what kind of friend it is. It’s kind of funny to me because we’ve been together for so long that I can’t really relate to this. We just never went out with each other. Other than an early dinner with someone now and then or I’d meet with my girlfriend Kerry for brunch on Sunday a few times a year. That’s been out extent.
I depends on the people. To say no woman could ever just be friends with a man is ridiculous. It can work, but again it depend on the people. Trust, is the main issue. I have male friends, I don’t spend alone time with them or anything, but occasionally a males perspective is what you need. Same goes for Jason. He used to have girl-friend he’d talk to for the same reasons. It doesn’t always work, but sometimes it does.
Now, spending a lot for time together…I’m not sure that would fly so well. Talking is one thing, but spending quality, alone time, will more times than not, cause problems. Even IF it is innocent. It’s just the way it is.
To be honest, fair and balanced, there have been times when I’ve had a guy friend and my mind started wandering a bit too far. Well, I’m single, so it’s not like I was cheating. But the fact is, my mind tends to go there, if there is much chemistry. (Not always, obviously.)
I would be extremely reluctant to try to ask a guy “friend” to go somewhere with me if he had a significant other. Can’t imagine it, honestly – out of respect for his wife/s.o. – regardless of whether I had a “thing” for him or not.
Lindsay and I hardly ever do anything without the other. Not that we don’t trust eachother…it’s just what we do.
I guess the closest thing is I would go for dinner during the lunch break with one of my co-workers when she worked at our firm. She was older than my mother….so it wasn’t anything that would get us in trouble. Just share our woes with work. Both our spouses knew too.
I’m single, so I do have a couple of guy friends. We do the dinner or lunch thing occasionally, and keep in touch with e-mail. We don’t do any date-like things, such as movies or such because that just doesn’t “feel right” to me. We enjoy just talking about everything and anything, and that’s really nice.