Top five regrets of the dying

It was kind of funny that I found this article today. This question is on my stick em note pad. I just hadn’t written it yet.

I’m sure you have a few regrets. Maybe some are big and some are small. I don’t have very many. I’m a believer of deal with it and move on but there are a couple of things that I honestly regret.

Do you? Care to share?

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8 Responses to Top five regrets of the dying

  1. skl1 says:

    I don’t have any major regrets in the sense that they have ruined my life or anyone else’s (that I know of). Sure, there are things I would like to have done differently and at least one thing I may always feel guilty about, but not to the point where it changed the direction of anyone’s life.

    It’s funny how, as we get older, the “big” regrets get smaller until most of them are really just teachable moments in retrospect. Or maybe I’m just living in major denial? I just feel there is no point spending energy on things you can’t change, which is what regrets are.

    It was interesting to see that every man that lady nursed regretted working so much. Every one, without exception? Hmm. I have had worked a lot for most of my life, but I don’t regret it. Work is a social activity, after all. Even as a parent, I don’t regret working, but I do make sure I’m there for my kids as they need me. Maybe someday my perspective on this will change.

    • Laura says:

      It could be that you don’t regret working because you enjoy your job, even though at times it drives you absolutely crazy. And you see to it that you balance work time and kid/family time. I know a lot of people who are all about the job, even though they absolutely HATE it, and they have no time for family because work comes first… it makes for a miserable life, not only for the employee, but for all around them.

      • skl1 says:

        I think that if I saw any evidence that my kids were worse off because of my working, I’d feel guilty about it. I just don’t see that spending a lot more time with me would do them a lot of good. Maybe that’s sad, but I’m not as much fun or as good a teacher as the combination of people they deal with throughout my work day. We have our things that we do together and for the most part, that seems to be enough. I also think I’d be meaner and more intolerant if I had them all day. Again, I could be totally wrong, but that’s how I feel right now.

  2. Laura says:

    I have a few regrets… some that are not changeable, so I am working to get past them. (those are the tough ones that I’m not ready to share. sorry)

    I can totally understand the first one in the article – well, it’s 1,3, and 5, actually, since they all kind of tie together. The “being true to oneself” thing. That’s one that I have, and one that I am, daily, working to change. For so long, I lived up to everyone else’s expectations… I did what was expected in school, did what was expected by my husband, by society, etc. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t feel like I was a slave or anything, or that I had a miserable existence, but I also put WAY too much store by what everyone else said, instead of sitting back (or standing up and yelling) and saying, “no, I don’t think so. I’m going to do this instead.”

    So now, I’m working on being more authentic. I don’t eat pork chops or pork roast (pretty much any “white meat” pork) because I don’t like it and I never have. I ate it because it was expected of me. That kind of stuff. Not because I don’t want to die with regrets – that’s bound to happen. But I want to die knowing I did the best I could with what I had. Even if it meant NOT doing something that everyone else thought I should do.

  3. Joy says:

    One of my biggest regrets is that I never got an education. I was really lucky to have gotten the job I did. I was SO in the right place at the right time for that. I really did love it and tried to get in the schools again here when we moved but it just never happened. I’d love something to do but don’t just want a “job.”

    This next thing is very personal but I’m not sure it’s so much a regret as much a sadness. I’m not sure if I want to put it here or not. I’ll think about it.

  4. Karen Joy says:

    I have regrets,not many but I do.The last 2 on that list are 2 of them.Those I suppose I can still change seeing as Im not dyeing and I think I have alot of life ahead(though you never know).Its hard changing old habits though.The other thing I regret is staying in a 10 year relationship,right through my 20’s and I knew it wasnt going to go anywhere.Feels like such a waste.Then again it took all these years to meet Wes my wonderful hubby.So I suppose maybe things do happen the way they do for a reason.Well thats about all Im going to share.The rest stays with me:)

  5. Nikki says:

    My biggest regret is not staying in school. I have a few regrets, some were life changing, others are pretty irrelevant in the grande scheme of things.

    Not graduating and taking school serious is my biggest, though.

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