Mom, Banned From Facebook Over Controversial Breastfeeding Photo

So what do you guys make of this? I’ll be honest and tell you that I think this is all kinds of creepy. I don’t even find it cute. Not in any way.

At first when I heard this story I thought it was just going to be a warm and fuzzy story about a little girl pretending but I had no idea that younger one who was “breastfeeding” was as old as she was. Second, I had it in my head it was going to be “pretend. ” As in through a shirt.

What bothers me the most is anyone can see this. All one of your friends have to do is “like” it or comment on it and you see it whether you’re friends with this person or not. It’s not private in any way. Some perv or child predator can just come along and save this photo into their computer. What was this mother thinking when she put it on Facebook? She still finds nothing wrong with it.

Not only that but now it’s just gone into the abyss, there’s no way of controlling it now. Facebook deleted it but how many other people saw it or saved it before that happened? It’s gone like the wind now and as many people that wanted it for whatever reason, have it.

It’s also kind of sad when Facebook “punishes” you and removes your photo and doesn’t let you log on for 7 days! Talk about feeling punished!!! I’d feel like I was to sit in the corner! I think I’d be embarrassed to go back.

BUT….I wonder which of her friends reported it? Someone HAD to report it. That’s about the only way the powers that be noticed this in the first place. Someone reported it as inappropriate.

What did you think of this? Do you think Facebook has the right to remove one of your photos and not let you on for 7 days?

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6 Responses to Mom, Banned From Facebook Over Controversial Breastfeeding Photo

  1. SKL says:

    Hmm. Yes, I think they have a right to remove your photo, but I don’t think they have a right to put you in time out! Or, maybe they technically have the right, but it’s ridiculous for them to exercise that right, unless you’re spamming or trolling or otherwise being patently obnoxious at other users’ expense.

    I’m not sure what I think of that photo. I would not have felt comfortable posting that at all, but I don’t think it’s “porn.” Then again, I’ve never looked at kiddy porn, so who knows what qualifies? In fact, I prefer not to know.

    I doubt anyone is going to use that photo for anything bad. There are random jerks in the world, but it would be quite the coincidence for one of them to come across that particular photo and make a copy of it. Even if they did, I don’t see how it would actually harm the children involved. So I would not lose sleep over that, but I just think it’s creepy, like you said. My kids are 5 and they would not think that kind of behavior was “innocent.” They don’t know what “sexual” is, but they know certain body parts are private. They might find the idea funny, but not innocent. Now if we were talking about two 2yos, maybe. But even then, I still would not post it.

    I do have a couple funny photos of my kids on their potties at age 1, that I posted on a forum once. No private parts are showing. I might have posted them on facebook if I was on facebook at the time. Who knows whether that would have gotten me a time-out.

    • Joy says:

      I don’t think a “potty” shot is the same thing. I think it’s that one little one is suckling on another one. A quite older one. I think that’s what it was but now I’m not sure.

      LOL!!! I don’t think you’d have gotten a time out.

  2. Laura says:

    Ok, there are a couple of issues here.

    First, the photo. I don’t see it as “sexual”. If I hadn’t been told that the smaller child was “breastfeeding”, I would have thought she was giving her big sister a “zrbitt” (watch The Cosby Show if you don’t know what that is).

    Second, the porn thing. As I see it, ANY picture can be fodder for “porn”. A regular picture of a regular kid, cut out of a catalog, if the pedophile so chooses. We cannot control others’ urges, and getting ourselves worked up over it is worthless. I agree that this picture could cause embarrassment for these girls down the road, but I am generally not worried about the “porn” aspect of it.

    Finally, Facebook. I do NOT understand their “standards” policy. As many breastfeeding advocates have pointed out – pictures of breastfeeding have been taken down – pictures where you can see baby, a teeny bit of skin, and mom (she’s not naked, she’s simply got her top pulled aside, so you can see what is happening, but nothing more), but pictures that are obviously sexual of teen girls in teeny-tiny bikinis that have darn near everything hanging out are left alone. I suspect the breastfeeding fanatics are right (as much as it galls me to say that phrase) in this case… that there are more people who are skeezed about BFing than about teen girls being sexual, and THEY’RE the problem, not FB. FB is just trying to please everyone, and it’s easier to err on the side of “take it down so it doesn’t offend”, and then apologizing and hiding behind their policy, than it is to take a stand and say “breastfeeding is fine, and being a skanky teenage girl is not”. Having said that, I completely agree that when you breastfeed, you should have a little class and cover up to the best of your ability if you’re out in public or being photographed. It’s just common courtesy.

  3. Nikki says:

    I think it is okay for them to remove photos they deem inappropriate, and I see a lot of photos that I personally feel shouldn’t be on at all, yet they are still there. I’m not sure where their guide lines are set at.

    I don’t see this picture in a sexual way, but I do find it creepy. If I saw this going on, I wouldn’t be taking pictures of it and posting it all over FB. I would be telling the girls to stop.

  4. annebellasays says:

    I instantly became disturbed upon seeing the picture. That is not right. If I were nursing my two year old, and found my 5 year old “pretenting” to let him/her breastfeed in this way, I would take the time to explain to my 5 year old WHY this is not ok. First of all, that 5 year old needs to know that she is never ever to have anyone ever put their mouth on any part of her body. Nor is she to ask anyone to put their mouth on her body either. Ever. Period. And so on and so forth. She should know not to lift her shirt and expose herself by that age and that her private parts and body are for only her to see, her parents, or at a Dr.’s appt.

    Nobody said there was anything “sexual” going on in that picture – it doesn’t have to be “sexual” to be wrong. It’s completely inappropriate and that child has to know her boundaries- and also the boundaries of everyone else around her including her younger sibling. If they were older and she did this to her younger sibling; it would scar that younger sibling for life. How do I know that? Let’s just say, unfortunately I do.

    Mom might need some parental coaching. Scratch that, mom needs parental coaching.

  5. annebellasays says:

    I don’t see anything wrong wtih breastfeeding either, in public when necessary or in private. I breastfed my kids and my older son did see me nurse my twins. There was actually no way of avoiding him seeing it nor was I embarrassed or ashamed. I simply explained it to him. There is nothing dirty or wrong with nursing your child. I would never even suggest a “cut off” age to someone as to when they should stop nursing their child, that is their decision- not mine.

    I just know in my gut, for myself- back in the day when I was nursing, if he were then immitating me by nursing one of them, I’d tell him why that was something he should not be doing and why.

    fb had every right to remove that picture of whatever else they deem inappropriate. If she doesn’t like it, she can stay off of fb.

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