I think I was one of the last ones I know that didn’t have a computer. Now that I have one I am blown away by the old friends I have found and how much everyone has changed. I’m talking about the people I knew years ago in school, the ones I left 11 years ago, and never really looked back.
I left California and moved to Montana the summer I turned 16 to live with 2 of my 3 sisters and then moved to Minnesota when I was 17 1/2. That was the longest I’d been in one spot so I got very close to these friends. Like the kind of girlfriends who you played truth or dare with, shared secrets with that will go to the grave. Good girlfriends!!!
Finding out what everyone has been up to has been more than interesting. So and so married who?! They did what, with who? So much has happened since I left…they grew up, well most did. They have their own kids and careers. All pretty much look the same, maybe a little heavier, a little older. Some have stayed there and some moved on. Some have passed. A few were such good friends that I thought at one point in my life I couldn’t live without them. Why did I let them slip away? I could use the excuse “people move on” but really?
My best friend in high school was the best, we were inseparable. When I left she had a hard time with drugs, she almost died. I should have stayed in touch so at least I could have been there for emotional support. I think I regret that the most. And I should probably tell her that I have found her. She had even asked me to be her Maid of Honor in her wedding…WOW!!!
I am now staying in touch with my 2 oldest nieces, 16 and 18 who live in California. There are things about them I had no idea about. Why does it take a computer to really find out things about someone. It’s my fault I didn’t take as much time to call as often as I should have or write to them. I’ve missed so much. I could have had one of my sisters try and find some of my old friends but I didn’t. It took a damn computer…and I feel awful for that. I left them and never thought twice about it ( I’m sure that’s what they thought) so why should they open there arms to me now and more importantly, want me in their wedding?!?!
Would you? Have you let great friendships slip through your fingertips and regret it? Throughout this whole process I’ve learned one thing…true friends are hard to come by so when you find them don’t let them go. I know I won’t and that goes for old friends and new.