A few of us were talking this morning on Facebook about how to go about getting kids to do their chores. Laura put the question out there and Nikki and I both commented and I thought it would be a good topic of discussion here. I think we’ve talked about it once before but honestly, I’m not sure anymore. If so, it won’t hurt to talk about it again since we have so many new readers.
What I did when my boys were really young was we did the whole chart thing. They both loved the stickers and it worked for us. I did have to change the rules a few times and things progressed but all in all, it worked well.
The chart went pretty much hand in hand with allowances. I know a lot of people don’t agree with allowances but I believe in them for more than one reason. When we were kids, if we didn’t do our chores, we didn’t get our allowance. Plain and simple. We also had to do all our chores and there were no breakdowns for jobs so if we didn’t do all of them, we got nothing. My dad used to say that when we grew up and got a job, we had to do what our boss told us and not just the part of our job that we liked doing. There is always good and bad and we had to do the whole job. I still believe that to this day.
Some people feel giving kids an allowance is bribing them to help us do things they should be doing in the first place as a part of the family. Yes, I agree with that to a certain degree but when kids are very young and just learning, I think the sticker chart worked for us really well. I also feel kids need to be able to earn a little bit of money in order to learn what they can and can’t do with it. What’s good to do with it and what’s bad to do with it. They had to give part of it in their offering envelope for church. They had to put part of it in their bank account and they could do what they wanted to with the rest.
Once kids get to a certain age, hopefully they will have learned that chores are a part of life but until then, I made those charts and let them pick out stickers at the dollar store and it worked for us. Besides, I feel everyone can appreciate a job well done. There’s a sense of accomplishment which I feel is good for self-esteem.
What about you? What did you do or what do you plan to do? How did you get kids to do their chores and how do you feel about allowances?