That question is the one that will strike fear into every human man old enough to know he should be afraid. And yet, we still ask the question.
As wives, we NEED to ask that question sometimes. If we’re going out, we certainly don’t want to look like Shamu in a pink dress. If we’re shopping, we want to know if these jeans look better than those jeans.
In our guys’ defense, asking “does this make me look fat?” is about as loaded a question as you can get, and we should NOT ask that way. But I’ve had guys tell me that they won’t answer ANY question their significant other asks them about their looks. I even had Big Brothers Mike and Jim look at me sideways when I’ve asked them if I look ok when we’re going out somewhere. Hey, I have to ask. My husband is blind, and the lighting in my house is atrocious. I don’t want to go out looking like Mimi, I’d appreciate an honest answer to the question.
So guys… is it that hard to answer the question? Especially if it’s something like, “do I look ok?” Can you be honest without getting busted? Yes. If she truly doesn’t look her best, tell her. Just don’t use Steve’s favorite line: “it ain’t the jeans that make you look fat, honey.” Say something like, “that color doesn’t look right,” or “that skirt doesn’t hang right.” Follow it up with a compliment: “your blue blouse looks great on you, and would go with those pants,” or something similar.
And ladies, give the guys a break. No more, “does this make me look fat?” ok? If you really need the answer to that question (because 90% of the time, we already know the answer), ask a girlfriend. SHE will tell you the unvarnished truth, and then go out for ice cream afterward.
Are there any other loaded questions we should beware of?