The issue of dress codes is so varied on blogs. Some people love them and others hate the idea of them. I personally wouldn’t have minded having uniforms. I think that way, everyone looks so nice. It also would take away a lot of hurt feelings when some kids can’t wear top designer fashions and are teased and left out. We all know how kids can be and I’ve seen it first-hand when kids are made fun of because of what they wear or don’t wear. It’s very hurtful at times to some kids.
I guess I also have a problem with a way a lot of “dress code” issues are handled. I also wonder who makes the rules and who follows them. This is something I got into on another blog one day.
This boy wore anti Obama t-shirt to school and was asked to either remove it, turn it inside out or be suspended. Now there’s a big uproar as to “freedom of speech” blah, blah, blah going on about it. Here’s one where kids were suspended for promoting underage drinking. Here’s one, child wearing pepsi t-shirt on coke day.
Here’s one where a bunch of school girls dyed their hair pink to honor their school nurse who had just died of breast cancer. The principal said “dyed hair is distracting.”
You can look at all the crazy things like this you want. All you have to do is google “suspended” and you’ll find all kinds of them. Most of them are kind of silly if you ask me.
For me personally, uniforms would stop all this kind of stuff. But my question is in the day to day school life, who decides what kids can wear or not? There’s no “dress code violator guard” at the front door to decide if a kid can get in or not. Nobody comes in and checks the kids first thing in the mornings to “make sure” everyone is wearing okay stuff. So does it fall to the teacher to decide if all the kids are wearing appropriate clothing? Some may say the parents should make sure the kids are okay as they walk out the door for the day. But we all know once a kid hits a certain age, there’s not a whole lot you can do once they leave your house. They could trade clothes with a friend or any number of other things.
Here’s what happened to me. Jason had a Chevy truck t-shirt. It had a great big red truck and a girl in a bikini. It said “I don’t drive no ugly truck.” It wasn’t a real woman or even a real truck. It was kind of cartoon-ized. I can’t remember now how old he was. I thought he was a senior but now that I think hard about it, he might have been a junior. Anyway, he wore this shirt ALL THE TIME. It was a regular part of his wardrobe. I felt he was old enough to wear what he wanted and nobody had a problem with it, I’d seen worse shirts. One day Toby wore that shirt and I got a call to bring him a different shirt to school. The principal didn’t want to call me and almost was embarrassed when he said “so and so” didn’t like it you should bring him up another shirt to which I did.
Should I not have let him wear the shirt, maybe not but Jason had been wearing it all year and he was either 17 or 18 at the time. Also, it wasn’t Toby’s first hour teacher that had the problem with the shirt. It was third hour. So this means at least two other teachers saw this shirt and didn’t think anything of it but the one who had the problem with it has the power to make a kid change??
So in other words, this would fall on teachers to try and police. I’m not sure that’s the right thing either. Let’s face it, we don’t all like the same things and some of us think some things are okay and others not. A kid could also be asked to turn a shirt inside out in one class and change it back after the class was over and hope the next teacher wouldn’t mind the shirt. It’s such an individual thing when it comes to who’s offended and who’s not. One day someone might also be in a crappy mood and another day tired of the whole thing and let a shirt go. So then how are the kids supposed to know if one day they can wear something and the next day they can’t.
I mean, I know life isn’t always fair but both kids wear the same shirt and one has worn it all year and the other wears it once and is told he has to change it. If the administration is at odds, how are we to know?
I really don’t know the answer to this but there is so much “suing” now for “personal” rights and “freedom of speech” that it almost seems to me that if everyone had to wear a choice of a few different things, the problem would be a lot easier.
What do you think? How can it be solved?